Support for children
A few additional things to know about the way I work:
It matters to me that the children I work with, have a say (voice and choice) in working with me. I am a firm advocate that support is something to be done in partnership with a child, rather than to them. (Unsure how best to talk to your child about the possibility of working with me, in a way that increases their chances of being open to doing so? Let’s chat).
I work to the same code of ethics and conduct as counsellors do, although I am not a counsellor. I provide a research-informed, child-centric, activity-based alternative to counselling.
I will always invest time in getting to know a child and establish a genuine connection with them, ahead of talking about their grief or what has happened (unless they want to). This is based on my understanding that care and support happens in the context of genuine connections. I can’t (and don’t) expect a child to want to share about their most difficult or personal ‘stuff’ (their grief) with me, while they perceive me as a stranger.
I don’t come to one-on-one sessions with a pre-determined view of what I will cover with a child. Instead, I am led by what the child wants to focus on. If they’re unsure, I will suggest possible topics, from which they can choose. This approach ensures that sessions are always responsive to the child’s specific needs at that time.
Whilst we will naturally touch on some ‘big stuff’ in the sessions, I do so in an age-appropriate and activity-based way. My approach is proof that grief support that occur in the context of fun (appropriately so, of course).
I charge $200 (incl. gst) per one hour one-on-one session. This rate is inclusive of an initial phone meeting with yourself, ahead of your child’s first session with me, and all materials used for activities during the session.
All sessions with children are held in-person at my office in Churton Park, Wellington.
Looking for age-appropriate support for your child or children? Support responsive to their unique and fluctuating needs?
Whilst much of time these days is spent supporting and educating parents and professionals on how best to support grieving children, I do (and always will) maintain a private practice in which I support children directly.
My approach, mattering-reinforcing care, is based on my research with bereaved children (recognised as the first of its kind, globally). In practical terms, I work with children in a way that:
recognises each child as being the expert in their grief and support needs
is based on a genuine connection
ensures the child feels safe, seen and heard
is activity-based, child-centric and at their pace
is truly responsive to each child’s unique support needs.
“Thank you for helping me. I now know that it wasn’t my fault.”9 year old client whose Dad had died six years prior
“Shelley, I can't thank you enough for what you have done for [child's name] and [child's name]. I know they've enjoyed meeting with you each week and I can tell how much it's really helped them."Mother of 7 & 9 year old clients, grieving the death of their father
“Thanks so much Shelley. I can see the change in [child's name]. I only wish we had found you sooner. You're amazing."Mother of an 11 year old client whose brother had died